Couples counselling online, to help you feel like a team again
Couples counselling by video call with Funmilola Sonubi, an accredited psychotherapist. A calm, neutral space for both of you to be heard, understand what keeps going wrong, and find your way back to each other.
Ready to talk together?
- Both partners, online by video call
- Confidential
- Christian perspective if you wish
Most couples who come to counselling still care about each other. What has gone missing is the ability to talk without it turning into the same argument, or the same silence.
You do not need to be on the edge of separation to come. Many couples come because something has felt distant for a while and they would like to understand why, before it grows.
Needing help does not mean your relationship has failed. It means you are willing to look after it.
Couples often come to talk about
Why caring about each other is not always enough
Struggling together usually makes more sense once you can see the pattern you are both caught in.
You are stuck in a pattern, not a fight
Many couples have the same conversation again and again, with different details. One pushes to talk, the other pulls away, and both end up feeling alone.
Each of you needs to be heard
When both people feel unheard, each one speaks louder or goes quiet. A neutral third person can help each of you say what you really mean.
Old hurts shape new moments
Earlier experiences, in this relationship or before it, can change how a small comment lands. Understanding that can take the heat out of it.
How Funmilola works with you both
She does not take sides. Her role is to help you both understand each other, not to decide who is right.
A fair, neutral space
Both of you are heard equally, at a pace that feels safe for each of you.
Understanding the pattern
Seeing what happens between you, so you can step out of it together.
Practical ways to talk
Simple, realistic ways to listen and speak that you can use at home between sessions.
If you would like your Christian faith to be part of your counselling, Funmilola can include it. If not, that is fully respected. She does not tell you what to do or whether to stay together; you decide that for yourselves.
What to expect
Every step is your choice. You can pause or stop at any time.
A free 15-minute call
A short, relaxed conversation to see whether working together feels right for you both.
Your first session
Time for each of you to share what has brought you here, agree what you would like to work on, and go through the counselling agreement together.
Sessions together
Both partners attend, online by video call, from a private and quiet space. You agree how often to meet after your first session.
A review together
You look back at what has changed, and decide whether to continue, adjust or finish.
Fees and practical details
- Session length
- 90 minutes
- Fee
- £100 per session
- Where
- Online by video call, from anywhere in the UK. In person in Rainham by arrangement.
- Who attends
- Both partners together
- Booking and payment
- Your first session is booked and paid online.
- Confidentiality
- Everything you share is confidential, with a few legal and safety exceptions explained before you start.
Support between sessions
Questions about couples counselling
Do we both have to come?
Couples counselling works best when both partners attend. If your partner is unsure, the free call is a gentle way to ask questions first. You are also welcome to book individual counselling for yourself.
How long is a couples session?
Each session is 90 minutes, which gives you both enough time to be heard without feeling rushed.
How much does couples counselling cost?
Each 90-minute session costs £100. The first 15-minute call is free.
Is it only for couples in crisis?
No. Some couples come in a hard season, and others simply want to understand each other better. There is no wrong time to ask for support.
Can our faith be part of counselling?
Yes, if you would both like it to be. Funmilola can include Christian perspectives when you ask. If you prefer not to bring faith in, that is fully respected.
We are not married yet. Is there something for us?
Yes. See Pre-Marital Counselling, which is a guided preparation for couples planning to marry.
Do you offer reduced fees?
Reduced fees may be available for students, people who are unemployed and people in financial difficulty. Please ask on your free 15-minute call and Funmilola will talk it through with you.
What if I need urgent help?
Help Ariseth is not a crisis service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999. For urgent support, call NHS 111 or Samaritans free on 116 123, any time.